" A woman possesses a rare and unusual sexual confidence she's grown accustomed to using. When she's attracted to a man, she immediately seizes on how 'right' it feels, how she should follow her instincts. That denying a mutual attraction goes against nature.
They jointly decide that there's no point wasting time, since they're clearly meant to be together. They become intimate, they spend almost every night together. She lets her friendships slide, cancels family plans because she'd rather be with him. After several months, they are essentially living together.
And then, once they've settled into a domestic union,the man starts doubting his feelings. The magic of the first months has faded. He chafes at her expectations; he starts to pull back. In response, she goes into full-pursuit mode by catering to him, trying to make him happy. He finds the extra attention suffocating.
In her desperation, she brings up the subject of marriage. He feels a combination of pressure and guilt.
Eventually, he ends the relationship, telling her, "You're the greatest woman I've ever known.""
extract from The Girlfriend Curse by Valerie Frankel
